How One Act of Disrespect Killed the Real Estate Deal (silver jewelry gifts)
No commentsBy Dave Clocker
Remember the GOLDEN RULE?
It states that you should “Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.”
It was a beautiful summer day when Carl received a phone call from another agent requesting an appointment to see the inside of the house Carl had listed. The agent specified a time to drop by the following day and Carl told the agent that he would call to confirm the appointment with the occupant of the property. Carl called, confirmed the appointment, and called the agent back the same day. The agent had given him two phone numbers to call back and he called both numbers. Each time he called, a voicemail came up and prompted him to leave a message. He left messages on both phone numbers for the agent to call him back so he would know they have received the message and are confirmed for the appointment the following day.
Thinking he would try again to reach her, Carl dialed her number again and a live person (not the agent though) picked up the phone. He left a message with that individual to have the agent call him back. The person indicated that the agent was out showing homes and would return the phone call. Carl NEVER received a call back! Whoaaa! Is Carl supposed to be cool about this? Isn’t this rude?!
Can you count on one hand only the number of times agents do this? Why are some agents so unprofessional and do not return the phone call when they are the one who initiated the request for an appointment? I find this to be rather rude. The proper thing would be for them to have the common courtesy to call back to either confirm or cancel the appointment. Don’t just ignore it. All it takes is a phone call to reply either way. That way, the occupant would be aware of the situation too. These are the same people that make appointments and never show. If the roles were reversed, I’m sure the agent would not be pleased if they were in Carls shoes. Maybe they had forgotten the Golden Rule…whatever the case may be they should learn to show some R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
How would you handle the situation? In my informal survey of this issue, Ive gotten a multitude of responses on how best to address this. One person suggested calling the agent’s broker to complain about this, however, they also felt the broker most likely wouldnt even care. Another advised calling the agents two phones and saying you are cancelling the showing since you did not hear from her/him. Some suggested sending an email to the agent who did not call back to notify the agent that the messages were left on their two phones to see if you get an explanation. Others suggested that in the future, practice preventive medicine by not allowing the agents to come see the home unless they have confirmed the appointment beforehand. One response even suggested treating other agents the way THEY want to be treated. So, in the circumstance described, it is obvious the agent likes to be treated poorly…otherwise she would not have treated others so badly! One day, shell get a nice dose of her own medicine.
Some agents suggested that it is best to put the matter aside and to concentrate on matters that are less draining on the mind and body. Who knows what happened to the agentmaybe they had a sick child and forgot to call back, maybe they had a flat or maybe they didn’t get the message because by some miracle, both of their phones ran out of battery or got left at home, or maybe they are simply really rude. Its easier just to give them the benefit of the doubt and not let it get to you. It is better to drop the bad spirits and to move along.
The sad part about this situation is that the sellers who hired these agents most likely are not even aware that the agent could be the cause of the house not selling. There are many occasions where other agents need responses to questions before they submit an offer or where they need to schedule an appointment to show the home, however, because the agent representing the seller is not responding, nothing happens. Along the same lines, the non-responsive agent could be the reason why the buyers cant get into the homes that would have suited them perfectly if their agent had taken them to it.
There are many points to this article, the central one being that it is critical when dealing with others in a real estate transaction to be considerate of them. Eventually, agents such as the one described in this story will find that their attitude and lack of professionalism will choke their ability to work with buyers and sellers and they will end up losing in the long run. The formula for successful relationships starts with respect of someone else’s…(you fill in the blank)we should treat others as we would want to be treated.
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Intimate Relationships Are Changing: Evolution and the Urge for Wholeness
By Peri Enkin
Over the past few years it has been my ongoing privilege to work with a growing number of couples. They seek me out for private mentoring and for support with the quality of intimacy in their relationships. Some are newly in love and just starting out on their shared journey together. Others are long-term couples. Now, one or the other or both has found themselves at a crossroads. Regardless of the length of time that couples have been together there seem to be a few central underlying themes to the challenges we all face when it comes to being intimate with another human being.
My own relationship journey has inspired me to undertake a very personal study of what it really takes to achieve genuine intimacy. It is such a foundational human longing - the desire for connection and companionship- that it appears on the radar screen often whenever we set our hopes on a fulfilling lifestyle.
Who among us does not want to love and be loved?
While I regularly travel to study with teachers in the relationship field, it is more from years of close observation and deep listening that I have been led to formulate some of my loosely held perspectives. I say loosely, because having hard fast rules when it comes to matters of the heart seems ridiculous at best.
When we speak of love we are in spiritual territory, where intuition carries us much further than logic ever could.
I rely more on the feelings in my body, the vibration of aliveness in my cells, the depth of soul visible in the eyes, to guide my way to an understanding of love and its majesty. That said, more than a few clients have asked me to write some words that might help them make sense of both the chaos and the wonder they experience. It is both humbling and empowering to speak of such things.
A universal hunger for more meaningful and nourishing loving connections with other human beings is often felt as an ache or need we prefer to keep hidden. To expose these longings takes us immediately into vulnerable territory. That is the first observation I will offer today. Intimacy requires vulnerability. There is no getting around it. To be close to another we must reveal who we are and that means risking rejection, ridicule and surprisingly, something much more frightening for many - the possibility that we might actually attain the acceptance we seek.
Here is the thing. Evolution is happening everywhere and that includes within our intimate relationships. When two individuals come together to create a third presence- their relationship - the evolution of each individual accelerates. Have you heard the expression - If you want to grow get into a relationship? I find it to be so true!
There is nothing like a relationship to fuel the evolutionary fires.
In fact in healthy relationships - those based on celebrating differences, encouraging wholeness and honoring needs of both partners, growth is inevitable.
Challenges emerge when couples limit their own personal expansion. Or when they assume that their partner will remain the same over the course of a lifetime. How comfortable are any of us with change? We like the comfort of the familiar even if it no longer serves us.
It takes great courage to stay conscious in relationships.
Going to sleep and living according to habit, at times, seems much more viable. That is, until the pressure to evolve rises and no longer will be shut down or ignored by us.
The truth is that evolution washes through us and cannot be denied any more than a wave upon the ocean can. Resist the flow and it backs up creating enormous pressure. Many relationships are altered or abandoned right before the point of breakthrough. It is much easier to blame a partner than to take responsibility for developing more consciousness. Especially when we have so few models of relationships that are based on two whole partners coming together to expand both their uniqueness as individuals and their shared magnificence. More often we come together in an attempt to fill our emptiness, pacify our loneliness, or soothe our inner conflicts. We do all of these things in the name of love and wonder why we often feel drained. Real love energizes us. It is an offering that can fertilize the ground upon which both people are safe to become more than they could ever be alone.
Relationships are not an elixir or remedy.
They are a catalyst and container for transformation and a place to share a whole range of experiences. The thing is - relationships mean such different things to different people that we often get confused about what we are doing together. One of the first things to do is to clarify and define your relationship vision - both individually and together.
It does not matter whether you are currently part of a couple or a single. It can be helpful to consider the following two urges and how they motivate your behaviors.
The Urge for Freedom - experienced as a longing for personal development of our own skills, and the engaging of life on our own terms.
The Urge for Connection - the longing to merge, unite, share and experience communion - intimate unity that takes us beyond our independence and transforms us thoroughly.
If you have pursued freedom in your past chances are you now long for connection. If you have known intimate connection it is quite possible that it is now time for you to develop your own inner authority. Eventually we want embrace it all.
Balancing our urge for freedom and our urge for connection seems to be a prevailing evolutionary challenge within the relationship arena. When we realize we do not need to give up our selves to be fully present with another, relationships act as a sanctuary. The journey taken together has the potential to be a most exquisite opening to our own essence and to more of everything that life has to offer.
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The Law Of Attraction and Feng Shui In The Bedroom
By Prabhat saini
Take a good look at your bedroom as it is now. Is your bedroom welcoming to new partners? Does your bedroom suggest that you are open to sharing your life? Is your bedroom depressing? No one is going to want to spend time in your bedroom with you if it is not pleasant. Use these simple strategies to encourage loving and healthy relationships:
* How big is your bed? This is an obvious, but often overlooked factor. Is your bed big enough to comfortably accommodate another? A tiny bed is telling others that you are not available emotionally to share your life. Make sure that your bed is big enough for you and your new soul mate. If you need to purchase a new bed, make sure that when you are selecting and assembling it that you are already envisioning the pleasant times you will be having in the bed with your new lover. It is important that you follow through with the thoughts as well as the actions. If you say to yourself “What’s the use of having a big bed, I’ll never find anyone to share it” then guess what? You won’t. By thinking positive thoughts you are attracting positive actions.
* Bed linen. No one will want to share your bed if the linen is old, dirty and not fresh. Purchase new linen in patterns and colors that appeal to the romantic or sensual side of yourself. Picture you and your dream date in your bed together when you are making up your new bed.
* Ventilation. Good bedroom Feng Shui states that you need good ventilation. Keep a window ajar for fresh air. This also makes for excellent health. No one wants to be breathing in stale fumes.
* TV. Now a big TV in pride of place may have been comforting in your single days. However, that is all going to change and you need to be able to indicate to your dates that you will be concentrating on them in the bedroom and not the TV. Hide the TV in a cabinet, or move it to the spare room.
* Computer. Your bedroom is not for working or surfing the net. It is for sleeping and spending time with your new soul mate. Move the computer someplace else. Like the TV, it sends bad signals to potential lovers.
* Workout equipment. It is not considered good Feng Shui to have your workout equipment in your bedroom. If you are space challenged, store it in your garage, but don’t keep it in the bedroom.
* Illumination. It is important to have several levels of illumination in your bedroom. Replace your light switch with a dimmer so that you have better control of your lighting. Various scenarios require different lighting to create the correct ambiance. When replacing the switch, visualize all the different activities that will soon be happening in this room.
* Color. The color of your bedroom is important. If you are able to repaint do so. Red is the color of passion. Perhaps you can have a feature wall, replace the curtains, or even set up a red mosquito net.
* Artwork. Any artwork depicting depressing, angry or lonely scenes should be banished immediately. What sort of message are you sending out? What sort of greeting are you giving yourself when you wake up every morning? Select artwork that is more romantic or cheerful.
* Candles. Candles are considered the best from of illumination for good Feng Shui. It doesn’t hurt that most couples also find them highly romantic. Candles are available in a huge variety of perfumes, select ones that are romantically scented. Candles that are natural and contain no toxic substances are best. It goes without saying that you shouldn’t leave burning candles unattended or fall asleep with them still flickering.
Combining Feng Shui and the law of attraction in your bedroom can have amazing results on your dating success. It is important that you just don’t replace unhealthy items, but that you also visualize positive occurrences while doing so. Until your soul mate comes along, keep thinking about all the pleasurable activities that you will be able to enjoy with your new love. For more information on the law of attraction and how it can improve your life and dating …………….
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