(Girls jewelry gifts) Creating Good Healthy Relationships
No commentsBy Ben Needles
When it comes down to it we all want good relationships. Not only with that special someone, but also all of our relationships; family, friends, work colleagues. The fundamentals of any good healthy relationship are the same. For now we will focus on our primary relationship with our partner, but these ideas can apply to any and all of our relating to others.
Open, honest clear communication is the first non-negotiable. If we cant talk about what we feel, think, and want then we trip up at the first step. So often people feel that they have to be a certain way for someone else to love them. They cant say that because their partner might not agree. They cant do this because their partner doesnt like it. But ask yourself this; do I want to playing a false role for the rest of my life that is not me? Do I want to hide a part of me to make another feel comfortable? Do I want to negate my wishes for my life to make someone else feel better? Put like that the answer is normally No.
True relationship is one where we share the totality of ourselves, to the best of our ability at any given moment in time. This is very different from the myths and fairytales we were brought up to believe. In those we were told that we were not whole until we had found that special person who would complete us. This is not true. We are whole as we stand. To want someone to fill us up is to ask the impossible of another. Sooner or later it has to fail. Good, healthy relationships are when we say here I am, warts and all, and I want to share all of me with all of you (warts and all!).
Our relationships are the biggest learning ground we have. A teacher once said put two people together and they will teach each other more about themselves than any self enquiry. We are the grist for each others mill. We are supposed to learn from each other, those little things that drive us crazy are showing us something about ourselves. Our relationships are the greatest mirror that will ever be held up in front of our eyes.
So often we leave relationships because they dont work only to find ourselves in yet another similar situation. This is because it is not the other person who needs to change but ourselves. Instead of blaming the other we need to look at where our responsibility lies within any situation and own our part in it.
That first special stomach churning, heart fluttering moment is the true connection you have with another person. This is before any of the stuff kicks in. It is a heart felt moment when two souls say hi. If we can come back to that clear moment and operate from there then our communication will always serve us. Instead of playing the role we think they want us to play we will be bringing all of ourselves to the present moment. It might mean that there will be times when one or the other in the relationship might say something that hurts. Truth sometimes does. This is not intentional, but because sometimes we dont want to hear the truth. But if we can stay true to ourselves in that moment and hear what the other is saying, without too strong a reaction, it nearly always holds great learning.
Our relationships enable us to grow as human beings, to share the best of who we are in any moment. They will be joyful, painful, fun filled, frustrating, inspiring, annoying, uplifting and all other emotions in between. But you know they will be real, and they will be an expression of a love far greater than we can imagine.
About the Author (text)
Jessica works internationally as a Life Fulfilment Coach empowering people to create the life they choose. To arrange for her to call you for a free introductory session for please email her at jessica@jessicamcgregorjohnson.com or call 34 958 639 593 or see http://www.jessicamcgregorjohnson.com
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Your Home Is An Extension Of Your Personality
By Dallas Dougan
Going back home to an environment that is well-decorated with lovely art prints can uplift your spirits and decrease your stress levels after hours of working for the man. It will also help you feel more at home because it portrays your connection with your home. When you are surrounded by your own creative inspirations it is easier to relish your free time and more fun to have company over.
Studies have shown that being surrounded by natural elements such as plants can bolster your health. we think that this is definitely true of the home. This is because we think the source of this beneficial effect is the sense of something natural and easy to relate to. We are spiritual animals who need to be engulfed in fresh natural environments.
This nourishment can be provided by putting lovely art prints containing organic-looking things which allow your mind to feel right at home. When we display art prints, we are able to pick what types of stimulating environments we will have around us, but the effect will be the same: a happier feeling day-to-day. These feelings manifest due an increased sense of oneness with our home world. We feel connected, we have a sense of being more cooperative with our surroundings, and so we are able to be still and enjoy ourselves.
Likewise, when we have taken an active role in the creation of our home environment it helps us to have a feeling that we have come to grips with ourselves as parts of our world. This supplements our feelings of being happy and relaxed because it gives us the sensation that we are in control of the situation. This reduces our stress and helps us to relate more clearly to the people we care about the most when we are at home.
Finally, a beautiful home can help to improve your social life because it makes it significantly smoother to invite friends over to come and hang out with you. When you have put art prints around that help to bring your personality into your surroundings, you have beautified your house with an assortment of conversation starters that can help to get conversations going and build up your friendships.
Even if you are only home alone you will find that it is much more enjoyable to be surrounded by pieces that you have chosen, because your own consciousness is connected to the art prints at a fundamental level. As you become more familiar, your appreciation of your chosen stimuli will develop as you become more relaxed and accustomed to your environment.
Dallas is a freelance writer who helps connect people with a Tampa Bay Mural Artist who can come into their homes and paint beautiful murals. Her site is listed on Starving Arts, a site about bolstering art careers and enjoying an artistic lifestyle.
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